Ready to Break All Your Barriers to Success?

Headlines scream "danger" and everyone buys the paper. "Have a Wonderful Holiday" as the headline and people smile and walk on down the street. The biggest barriers, those boulders in your head and iron walls surrounding your heart never even merit a mention. Even worse, these issues are the 600 pound gorilla in our lives which we drag around with us. You pretend it does not exist and yet you are so attached to it that you mentally put a seat belt around it to be certain it stays close to you.

Why continue to lug that burden around? Just because your emotional crutch has traveled with you throughout your life, does not mean you need to clutch it like a child holding on to an ice cream cone. This does even taste or feel good. It is only familiar.

Stop covering it up with Lancôme makeup or wrapping it in Gucci togs. Figure out what caused it and get rid of it. Holidays bring out a variety of mental monsters. Your pet gorilla may have been born when your sister received a nicer doll on the fourth Christmas than you did. May your pet gorilla's birthday was when you did not get the bicycle you wanted for your fifth birthday. Maybe it was some grievous offense committed by one of your parents at some point in your junior high school days. It may be something which no one knows about except you. How can you expect someone to correct an offense which they do not even know they committed?

Even if they know about it, who is it hurting? Not them; they sleep peacefully snuggled in their crisp clean sheets and warm cuddly blankets at night. You are the only one wrestling with the gorilla pulling all the covers off the bed. Do you enjoy suffering? Maybe, you have done it for so many years. Do you really want to continue lugging that extra weight around?

Look your gorilla squarely in the eye. Determine exactly when and why he entered your life. Looking back on your life and putting the situation in perspective, is it really that significant to still be upset after all these years? Incidents which occurred within the first five or six years of our life took on a completely different perspective at that tender age than they do when viewed in the bright sunshine of an adult existence. Yes, I remember an extremely unpleasant incident with my father when I was three years old. I can still see the entire scene and hear his hateful words; however, they no longer hurt me.

My father passed away almost ten years ago. He can do absolutely nothing about those words now. For me to hold on to that pain and nurture it festering in my soul would only harm me and those who care about me. Why would I choose to give him or anyone else that power and control over my life? I am alive and thriving today. He said what he said for whatever reason he said it; incident closed. I have a wonderful life to live and enjoy. I choose to live free from old programming and old situations.

Look carefully at your old programming. What limiting beliefs or dented self confidence are you allowing to block your path to a healthy and happy future? 2010 edges closer to us every day. Why not make it your best year ever.

Dismantle that old gorilla; pull the stuffing out of him. Pummel him into the width of a snowflake. No longer allow anything or anyone to block your path to the delightful prosperity and happiness you so richly deserve.

A common New Years resolution is to lose weight. You have just been presented with a delightful and almost instant way to remove an unwanted and un-necessary 600 pounds from your shoulders. Whew! Feel the relief. Smile at yourself. You have just accomplished something only a minute proportion of the world ever does. You took off a huge amount of weight during the holidays and did it with a release of pain in the process. Congratulations.

Build Self Confidence

Mindset determines your results. The lack of self confidence throws a massive road block in your path to success. With or without your intention, your self confidence or lack of it will transmit into your results. The vibration we emit to others directly relates to our degree of self confidence.

In the early years when I owned the property management company in Steamboat I achieved several high honors from the industry. My business prospered more and more each year. My situation parallels many other successful business people whose business declined in direct relation to the beginning of personal problems. Business success directly related to the success within their personal life. At the point I entered into a relationship with a very successful man, my business began to suffer. He constantly reminded me how small my business was in comparison to other businesses within my management association. He pointed out how other management companies in other states were far larger and thus far more successful than my property management company. I ALLOWED this negative comparison to erode my self confidence in myself and my business. As I allowed these negative thoughts to undermine my self confidence, my business soon began to decline.

Note that I take full responsibility for the decline of my business and the erosion of my self confidence. Never underestimate the power of the words, attitudes and influence of those around you. Not only does your income seem to become the average of the five closest people to you, but their attitudes and influence generally impact your attitudes and thus your results. Quite frequently business success parallels personal self confidence.

Personal attitudes, self confidence and financial results seek the same level. Just as water seeks its own level, so does your business success seek a level with your self confidence.

Examine your life, your results and your self confidence. You will probably find a direct correlation in your life. In this time of economic turmoil, lack of self confidence abounds. Solutions do exist. For me, it took some serious personal development to overcome the decline in self confidence. Yes, I also removed myself from the negative mental relationship.

Jim Rohn, noted business philosopher, remarked that there are people you can spend five minutes with but not five hours. There are others with whom you can spend a day but not a week. Guard your associations and their influence upon you carefully. Associate with people who challenge you to improve your attitude, self confidence and achievements. Spend your time reading empowering books, listening to positive cds, and speaking with growth and achievement oriented individuals. Rebuild your self confidence.

Success is an inside game. Every positive thought inspires another positive thought which forms a chain reaction of empowerment and encouragement. If a hesitant or negative thought creeps into your mind, immediately reframe it as a positive. Your mind exists as a marvelous tool for your good or your downfall; you choose which one by your thoughts and your associations.

Start every day and end every day with positive affirmations. Recall every success from your past no matter how small and celebrate them. Recapture that feeling of happiness and self confidence. Any time you experience hesitation recall that feeling of success and feel the joy all over again. At the end of the day write down every success, no matter how small, which occurred throughout the day. Each morning before you arise, refresh you mind with those successes and resolve to create more in the new day.

Your mindset and your self confidence propel you forward or backward. Focus on the direction you choose to go and your subconscious mind will assist you. Become the example of self confidence and success you choose for yourself. You will receive the bonus not only of your own success but also of providing the success path for others to follow.

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