Management Issues

Executives attend “Anger Management” classes after an incident in the workplace. Domestic violence situations require “Anger Management” class attendance. Children earn a trip to the principal’s office for anger management following playground issues.

Be realistic! Why would anyone choose to retain their anger and manage it rather than resolve the underlying cause? Anger destroys the person who clutches that nasty emotion to their soul. Anger rarely has any redeeming value whatsoever. Anger tears at the soul. Anger offends the peaceful spirit.

A wise elder from the Indian tribe instructed his grandson about the struggle within his heart. Within every man there are two wolves constantly at battle. One wolf represents hatred, war, hurtful words and various forms of evil. The other wolf embodies love, kindness, helpfulness, peace, thankfulness and joy. These wolves battle incessantly all day every day through the day and night. “Grandpa, wise one, which wolf wins the battle,” queried the boy. “The one I feed,” advised the elder.

We each contain a choice every day. We choose to feed the evil wolf or the gentle wolf.

Apply this same emotion and intensity to grudges. Maintaining an emotional death grip on a grudge hurts you even more than anger. Frequently the object of your displeasure may not even be aware of the offense they have supposedly so grievously committed. You are the only one suffering. Unless you are masochistic, grudges have zero value.

Debt management follows exactly the same ridiculous pattern. Our society’s emphasis on “instant gratification” propels us into debt. Rather than resolving the root causes of careless spending, we tend to pile debt upon debt until we amass a Mt. Everest stack of bills on a below sea level income. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to predict an impending disaster.

This isn’t a NATO project. You pretend you aren’t keeping up with the Jones family as you buy another new car which you really did not need. Do them a favor and stop the nonsense. They probably can’t afford you either. Piling up the credit card bills foolishly just to “look good in the neighborhood” makes about as much sense as wearing your ski helmet on the beach. Christmas “one upsmanship” provides the fuel for impending bankruptcy.

Debt management, or lack of financial responsibility, compounds the tension. More domestic arguments directly relate to financial issues. Debt issues spiral into anger issues. Anger management becomes the kissing twin of debt management. These siblings interact with the intensity of the atom bomb. One feeds on the other snowballing into an avalanche of red hot negative emotion.

Take a deep breath, step back, and view the cause of the anger and the cause of the debt. Resolve right now to take positive action to halt the nonsense.

Give gifts of the heart this Christmas. Spend time really loving your family and listening to them. Take the extra time to say “I love you.” Love salves many an angry spirit. Everyone, especially children, loves toys and presents at Christmas time. You might be surprised to discover that the gift they truly desire the most is actually your undivided time, attention and love.

Feed the gentle wolf. Anger management can be eliminated by dissolving the root cause of the anger. Debt management is minimized and brought under control by emphasizing love more than things as gifts this Christmas.

Anger evaporates when you feed the gentle wolf. Life becomes more peaceful. Managing anger is not the answer; resolving the cause makes sense. Debt management flows down the same stream as anger management. Resolve the cause; earn more income and spend more wisely. Feed the gentle wolf.

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